05-Nov-2008

pretty young dumb thing

when i was 12, the mother of a friend told me very nicely that i should start using fair and lovely... I said no thanks....I don't think I ever felt bad about the way I looked until I came to engineering... Even then, I knew it was a passing phase and didn't bother too much...
yesterday, I read in newspapers that young girls (12 to 17) get their hands and legs waxed, get their eyebrows plucked and worry about their weight and shop for the latest fashion... here... in India...
I saw a little girl asking her mom for a princess dress in the mall...
when did things change so much??? I thought girls that age worried about boys and studies and books and stuff... not their looks!
I think the media plays a role too... all those air brushed celebrity pictures bombarding us all the time! And girls that age really get influenced quickly...
I worry about how it will be, when I have kids...
There's another thing that i see a lot... A lot of girls dumb themselves down in the work place, with their boy friends...I just hope that it's a passing phase.... I thought smart was in.... i seem out of touch with reality......
young girls are increasingly getting judged on what they have and what they look like rather than what they are or can become. I think that's just sad....
young girls have so many opportunities today and this negative trend might just reverse all that...
If I decide to have kids and my kid is a young girl, I hope I can teach her to be smart, ambitious and sensible and compassionate.... like my mom did....

7 comments:

Vered - MomGrind said...

I have to agree that the media plays a big part in this looks-obsession. It bothers me too!

Pixie said...

I agree... And its an added disadvantage if u r good-looking AND smart and you DON'T dumb it down...
Sad really...

Reflections said...

A relevant post....the amount of knowledge lil girls have on beauty & beauty secrets amaze me.
I have 2 daughters & it sort of scares me that they can identify 'eye-shadow' at their age;-o....nope never used eye-shadow in my life & didnt even know what it was till the age of 19.
"I hope I can teach her to be smart, ambitious and sensible and compassionate.... like my mom did...."
Ur mom must be so proud that her daughter turned out so sensible:-)

wisegirl said...

@reflections
Thank you! she is...

Meeee said...
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rachita said...

Hey!! read this post of urs!!..nice one!!.. n very true indeed!!.. I have faced many a situation as such..wen i was just let down coz of ma looks n stuff.!! i wish people were a bit maverick in their thinking..n thought more practically!!! keep writing,,good one..!!

wisegirl said...

@rachita

Thanks a lot! keep visiting