I will also get nice fresh vegetables this week from farm fresh.
- most of us need all the help we can get so if someone is offering some advice or help, shut up and take it. You can determine later, whether you can use it or not.
- How you look matters. clean toenails, fingers and nice clothes matter more than you think. At least they mattered more than I thought they did.
- If you have an opinion, speak up. people who speak up are more noticed than the quiet "intelligent" types. no one will know how intelligent you are if you don't speak up.
- if you have ideas and dreams, start working on them. it's never too early or too late.
- learn to be alone without feeling lonely
- de-clutter your life. it helps you start getting things done. this means negative friends, clothes that you don't wear, shoes you don't need etc.
- most people have more to offer than we give them credit for. give people a chance.
- compliments have power. give and receive compliments with grace and generosity.
- read. it's important to know what's going on in the world even if it doesn't affect you. makes you smarter.
- listen to both sides of the argument. learn to take criticism even if it seems unfair.
- ask for feedback regularly. when the boss gives you feedback, it might be too late to correct certain things.
I have also become unapologetic about who I am. I have also learnt that most of us know what are weaknesses are instinctively but to know what your strengths are, is to discover yourself.
My MBA experience has been a happy one.
Today I realized that a lot of people think that poverty is something that people bring upon themselves. This angers me. Yes, you can get out of poverty. My own father did. However, a lot depends on the society and country you born in. There should be something to get out to. A lot of people live the way they do and resort to the things they do, because they know of nothing better.
These days, I've been reading a lot about Africa. I read What is the What by Dave Eggers, I read Say you are one of them and watched a couple of really cool videos. A lot of countries in Africa are desperately poor and sick and are under oppressive and corrupt regimes. These are not problems they created for themselves. These are problems they inherited, when the Europeans left them with hastily drawn boundaries, insensitive and corrupt governments and newly discovered resources. Yes, every nation is responsible for its own destiny. However, the world has a responsibility too. when countries give these corrupt governments arms in exchange for allwoing them to mine, it is immoral. When nations are poor are desperate, they become breeding grounds for hatred and terrorism and we all end up paying a terrible price. We all have to care about the world. We don't have a choice.
What happens when we see or learn of something that we don't necessarily like? If we know that this new information is correct, we can:
1. shut out the information and pretend we never heard it.
2. Try to learn a little bit more, and see if there is anything you can do to change it
3. or be bull headed that the things you learn and see are correct.
As an Indian, suppose someone said that the number of dowry deaths in my country are disturbingly high and i didn't know this, before the person told me.
1. pretend that this is absolutely false
2. Acknowledge the problem and see what I can do to fix it
3. or say that this is how it has been for centuries now and hence this must be right.
You would think a majority of people as highly educated and "well-informed" as a class of MBAs in a world class business school, would chose option 2. but sadly today, i learnt that well-informed or not, MBA or not, most people choose to react to negative information about their countries, societies and religion either by shutting it out or reacting extremely defensively.
What's my point? Well, nothing really. I just want people to be a little more open minded.
- read more - no more excuses that I am super busy
- blog more frequently- i love blogging and want to blog more regularly, no more excuses that I am super busy. it is clear that I am not.
- find an internship -put more effort into the internship search. no more excuses that I am super busy. It is clear that I am not.
- Stay as happy and peaceful as I was in 2009 if not more
- continue to be a compassionate and well informed global citizen.
- continue to be flexible, accepting and as non-judgmental as possible
- try my best to see both sides of the story
- BE MORE ORGANIZED
- stay in touch with God and my conscience.
1. it is possible for me to have more than 5 friends
2. i still haven't pushed myself hard enough this year although I promised to do so at the beginning of 2009 to realize my true potential. The reason for this I this is that I actually don't want to. I find great pleasure and peace in doing nothing, in not being busy all the time and in not working extremely hard. That's just who I am. True potential be damned. I'd rather be truly happy, which I am
3. You can still be best friends with someone even if you are in different continents.
4. Cooking is my second greatest passion. Eating is one thing I am never lazy about. I love a good meal and have no trouble preparing it myself.
5. I realize that there are very few people who really don't care what other people think of them and I am one of them. this I think is the real key to happiness.
6. Even very smart people make horrible decisions and there is nothing you can do to change it
7. The reason there are so many cultures that co exist in America and retain their cultural identity is that Americans are a lot more open, accepting and secure about their identity than we ever give them credit for. That is part of their culture.
8. I am still a feminist but I have stopped trying to convince other people about feminism really is. I am tired and I think that people see things and understand ideas only if they want to.
9. I always thought that I would never get an abortion despite the fact that I am vehemently pro choice but now I think that's ot true. Children are a huge responsibility and you must be completely ready to take on that responsibility and if you are not, do what you must. It is more important than not do a good job in bringing them up.